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Personal Meta-Coaching |
Pick a sporting game, any game...
Tennis, golf, gymnastics, boxing, rugby, football - it
doesn’t matter what you pick. Now, in your imagination, see
people playing that game, having fun, developing their
skills, learning about themselves and others, increasing
confidence, winning, losing, refining skills, winning as a
team, pulling together for each other, and being coached.
Now with that movie in your mind, zoom in on that last
statement, “being coached.” Now zoom in to frame just the
coach and the team. As you do notice how the coaching can
make all the difference in the world to the team’s
performance. Yet the coach isn’t out there on the field or
on the court. The coach doesn’t actually do anything when it
comes to the actual performance of that game. By this point
in the process, the coach is in a cheerleading role, a
meta-observer role, giving feedback role, and as a
leader of the processes.
So how is it that a Meta-Coach can make all the difference
in the world? When we transfer this to Personal Meta-Coaching, what
does a Meta-Coach actually do?
From The Inner Game of Tennis to the latest books on the
field of coaching, the idea of having someone who
understands structure and form over and beyond content has
been taking the field of sports, executives, top sales
performers, and now experts in every field of life by storm.
Why?
What is the appeal? How does it work?
The coaching of an Olympic athlete enables us to clearly see
that the coach has a very special expertise, not of the
sport, but about the sport. Top coaches are, more often than
not, not even in the same ballpark when it comes to being
able to actually perform the skill or expertise. Being an
expert in a sport doesn’t guarantee that one can coach it!
What a Meta-Coach does actually occurs at a higher logical
level. Because it is about an expertise, it is at a higher
level to the performance. It is at the level of structure
and process. The Meta-Coach has to have expert knowledge
about the content. This “about-ness” makes the coach’s
expertise a meta-expertise (“meta” means above and
beyond one thing, and about it).
So it is with Personal Meta-Coaching. The Personal Meta-Coach’s expertise
does not lie in the performance as much as in being able to
facilitate the best performance in the client and empower
the client to learn to do the same for him or herself.
Personal
Meta-Coaching is all about evoking the best in a client, in
empowering the client to run his or her own brain, and in
using the most cutting edge models for generating topnotch
results.
A particular kind of psychology is used in Meta-Coaching,
which is very different to the kind that examines how people
are broken and needs fixing. That is actually therapy.
Meta-Coaches utilises generative psychology, which is not
about fixing people or focusing on problems of trauma in the
past. Rather it is forward-focused. It is about generating
new potentials, new resources, and new strengths. It is a
positive psychology that’s directed on creating an
orientation in life that aims for excellence. It’s going for
gold. It’s seeking to be excellent (not “perfect”) in a
particular area, be it health, relationships, career
success, parenting, etc.
Personal Meta-Coaching has come into its own as top men and women in
all fields and areas of life know that the difference
between surviving, being moderately successful and becoming
incredibly successful (within their own definitions of
successful) often lies in the smallest refinements. That’s
why they contract with a Personal Coach to develop those
differences that makes the difference.
Today Personal Meta-Coaches are coaching people in parenting,
relationship enrichment, health and fitness, public
speaking, business acumen, or any particular excellence that
allows their IQ and EQ (intelligence and emotional quotient)
to come together in just the right measures to generate a
higher level performance.
Personal Meta-Coaching works using a particular form of
behavioral feedback. The Personal Meta-Coach has been trained in
how to provide clean sensory-based feedback that allows a
person to see oneself as if in a mirror.
This brings one to choice points and to the adjustments of
one’s frames of mind. Such Meta-Coaching operates by a very
intense and focused kind of conversation. It is solution
oriented conversation, which takes place in the moment and
yet it has an eye on the future.
This is what makes it so powerful. It is an explorative
conversation that is intense, robust, even fierce. It’s not
for the faint of heart. The conversation seeks to get to the
heart or structure of a situation, with eyes wide open and
with a non-judgmental awareness.
It takes a lot of ego-strength to be coached. Most people
in counselling lack this, as they are there in fact, to
develop more ego-strength to face reality. The
non-judgmental awareness of the Meta-Coach simply
witnessing, then cleanly and clearly perceiving what is
without judgment, allows one to receive feedback.
When Personal Meta-Coaching takes a freestyle approach, it’s almost
like a stream of consciousness conversation and so follows
the mental-and-emotional energy wherever the client chooses.
It tracks down (or up) the levels of the mind that make up a
person’s mental-emotional structure.
Personal Meta-Coaching can also take a process approach. When it
does, there will be a specific set of experiences that the
Coach will put the client through. The experiences are
penetrative, like drills. They facilitate the discovery of
resources, the realisation of new insights, and the
connecting of things for greater alignment and congruency.
In the game of life the ones who win do so because they have
learned the skills, discovered the rules, practiced, and
have developed the right kind of attitudes. And as with
sports, even when you are at the top of your own life Game,
there are always more refinements for greater fun, success,
and achievement.
Are you ready to be coached for the game of life?
Developmental Meta-Coaching
Developmental Meta-Coaching is measured by performance in skills
and behaviours, yet focuses on evolutionary change, helping
a Client to develop their beliefs, values, self-identity and
other meanings for a change in their performance, in any
area of their life.
Developmental Meta-Coaching is highly effective for releasing
interferences to untapped talents and potentials.
Performance Meta-Coaching
Performance Meta-Coaching is the form of coaching most people
think of when describing Meta-Coaching. At this first level of
Meta-Coaching, a Coach’s focus will be on incremental change and
modification of a Client’s skills and behaviours; what the
Client can perform or do in action.
Performance Meta-Coaching is highly effective in Workplace
Coaching, Sales Coaching, Sports Coaching, and task
orientated Coaching such as writing a book, winning a
competition, public speaking, finding a new job etc.
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The above
content is co-authored by Dr. L. Michael Hall and MetaCo |
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behind us and what lies before us are tiny
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